The Godly Man
There was a study I read about a while back that said, “If you kiss your wife every morning and tell her that you love her and kiss her every night and tell her that you love her you will love 5 years longer and make 20% more money.”
Proverbs 24:1-5 ESV 1 Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them, 2 for their hearts devise violence, and their lips talk of trouble. 3 By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; 4 by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. 5 A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might,
Proverbs 25:21-22, 24 ESV 21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, 22 for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you. 24 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 25:28 ESV 28 A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
Proverbs 27:8, 17 ESV 8 Like a bird that strays from its nest is a man who strays from his home. 17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
A Godly Man:
I. Protects the home
Physically – John 15:13
Emotionally – Colossians 3:21
Spiritually – Romans 12:2
II. Prays with his wife
We give Him our praise together. Psalm 150:6
We give Him our requests together. John 15:7
We give Him our thanksgiving together.
We give Him our contrite hearts together.
Start a tradition of writing out prayers for your marriage.
III. Pursues God
Recognize your need for God.
Rely on the Holy Spirit for help.
Use what God has given to you.
Get back on track when you fall.
Invite others into your pursuit.
IV. Provides Spiritual Nurturing
He prioritizes his relationships.
He puts the needs of his wife above his own. (King and Queen for a day)
He is mature and doesn’t use his position to lord it over his wife.
He initiates, sets good boundaries, and stands firm in what he needs to do.
V. Practices Forgiveness
We tend to judge others by their worst act and yet judge ourselves by our best intentions.
Understand that a lack of forgiveness is sinful behavior.
Seek to understand motivations. “Hurt people often hurt people.”
We struggle with forgiveness because we are resisting our right to be hurt. Col. 3:13
When we don’t forgive our partner, we allow negative thoughts to rent space in our minds.
We will never have to forgive our partner as much as God has forgiven us.
VI. Promotes the Gospel
Live “On Mission” as a family.
VII. Persists in Building Accountability
Proverbs 27:17 ESV “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
Definition of persist – “continue firmly in a course of action in spite of difficulty, opposition, or failure.”
Iron sharpens Iron:
A principle of Relationship – Proverbs 6:4
A principle of Accountability
A principle of Motivation
A principle of Willingness
THE HOLY SPIRIT CONVICTS AND THE WORD OF GOD SHARPENS. – Hebrews 4:12
